Dating for over 10 years

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I am a year old-woman who has been single for 10 whole years. I have great friends, an active social life, interesting hobbies, a challenging career and four wonderful nieces and nephews. I can honestly say I am happy with my life and feel very fortunate. However, I do feel lonely and would love to meet a man.

I miss a partner to share things with and I really miss sexual intimacy. I have tried online dating , including Tinder, and am having no luck.

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The things that you describe — friendships, hobbies, work and great family relationships — are not easy to come by. I felt a weight of hurt so deep, so consuming, that I had trouble drawing breath. As I came back to consciousness and the reality washed over me afresh, tears streamed down my face, and I was wracked with gut-wrenching sobs. It felt like the grief would tear me apart.

I wrapped my arms around myself.


I felt like I was shattered and had to hold my physical person together. I couldn't think of anything but the pain. I wanted a real relationship. I wanted to get married again.

Dating for 12 years without a proposal?

I wanted to have beautiful, fat babies and live a life free of fear. After that pain — the pain I suffered when I was finally forced to acknowledge that my husband's drinking problem was not going to change and that our marriage was over — I couldn't fathom the notion of getting my heart broken like that again.

That fear controlled me for many years. I flitted from country to country, backpacking through Southeast Asia; sleeping with gorgeous, heavily accented men; feeling safe in the knowledge that one of us would be on a bus to another exotic city the next day.

When I finally felt ready to return to the U. I met Michael, a sweet, fun-loving guy who had moved back in with his mother two years ago when his business went bankrupt.

Relationships: One Month Vs. One Year

They always treated me well. The sex was great. I never had to worry that they would break my heart. I didn't have to allow for the possibility that I might experience the kind of soul-wrenching, incapacitating grief I had experienced when I finally faced the truth about my year marriage. But, in truth, I wanted a real relationship. I did some intense soul-searching. I worked with life coaches. I read every self-help book I could get my hands on. In January, almost five years after my divorce, I met Peter: Looking for a serious relationship?

I had broken the pattern! A month-long, whirlwind courtship followed. I had never fallen so breathlessly, recklessly, head-over-heels in love before. Peter made me feel safe.

Food is Medicine

Suggest we meet, suggest a date, suggest a place, suggest a time. But no one does. Are we exhausted, over it, or is this just not a thing anymore? Instead, I should have just been myself. I should have just followed my instincts the first, not the 50th time, a man on Tinder asked me to do something overtly sexual, if not offensive, the very first time he sent me a message.

After 10 Years, Here's Why I’m Over Online Dating

I should have done what I knew was right after flipping through my first 1, faces without so much as meeting for coffee. The voice in the back of my head was right all along. I was always going to end up here, with nothing. Wait, you know what?

Lessons In Self Love

I kept participating in online dating because I thought I had to, because it was there. No one would offer anything or anyone so much time, so many chances to come around. Where are single men?